Coming back from vacation either you lived the great summer love on the island, or you spent time with your boyfriend or girlfriend with the most romantic vacation, or even if you’ve been through the ideal hot girl summer you wonder if there is the perfect relationship, or it is something completely utopian that we want to believe in it. And here I am to answer to this question that the perfect relationship exists and is the one you built with yourself and maybe this is the most difficult task that you have to work on this and every new season that begins.

The perfect relationship, is neither something utopian nor something always real and that's because humans are all completely different from each other. With some we do fit in a lot and so we call them friends or mates and with others not at all so we consider them toxic and we do not want them in our lives. But the perfect relationship begins and ends with you. Yes, you and yourself because as many have said, from great gurus to psychology scientists, getting along well with yourself is difficult and demanding. Here I am again, as a faithful yogi and teacher, who always tries to build a better contact with my students with their inner self, that all the above is true. It is not enough just to smile and make concessions to maintain a situation - which of course is needed - the most complicated thing is to understand and accept who you are so that you have the perfect relationship first within you and then with those around you!

Patience, love, endurance, demand and retreating are terms that you have to work on constantly whether you are in a relationship or single. The point is all of the above have you worked with yourself? How do you expect to be loved if you don't love you? How do you demand things from others if you don't be demanding with yourself? Do you have the stamina and guts to deal with all the things that are “wiping” you so that you can face life with someone else? If you want to take it to the romantic side, a relationship has stages to overcome in order to become perfect and remember that we all have flaws. But what does a perfect relationship mean to you? Does it have to do with money or the "good" life or is it with the real feelings and moments that bring you closer to each other?

I know a lot of questions, but consider it as a small Q&A that will put you in thoughts so that first you become a better person you first want to share your life and everyday life with someone else. This is because if you enter into a relationship, especially erotic and you have repressed and crazy demands, all you will manage is to "build" feelings around a bad situation first of all for you and then for him or her next to you. In order to be able to appreciate the other, your moments but also to take the next step whether it is called cohabitation, marriage, children and even a break up you have to have self-esteem, know your value what and how much you deserve and what kind of impact impact you have on someone else's life with your behavior. Being good doesn't mean you're going to be treated well, but it takes insight to see it and perception to act. Of course, the opposite is true, if you do not behave properly do not expect others to behave better to you. Even if you manage to have the perfect relationship, remember that it may not always be perfect so you should never stop working with yourself and within yourself as our mind always finds a pathway to facilitate and escape from real life. So, if you choose to believe and look for the perfect relationship you should have confidence, honesty and a lot of patience first with yourself and then with yourself or your partner so that you feel 100% of the emotions that develop and live to the fullest all your moments either good or bad because they are also part of the game...

There is nothing more important than you and if you learn to manage yourself then and only then you may have the perfect relationship on every level!

Until next time my beloved #nothinker work with your feelings and teach yourself how to externalize what bothers you, thus helping yourself and others next to you.

The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind

-Caroline Myss

Xoxo

Elena Vafeiadi