Long distance relationship: Is it really worth it? Definitely, it is not easy to maintain a situation like this.

I can understand how you feel. A long-distance relationship is hard. It takes guts to endure it and to keep it unchanged. I know what it's like to make this type of relationship work. I also know what it's like when that doesn't happen. How difficult it is to decide that it's finally not working out or that it's not working out  just for you?

I've been in a long-distance relationship (we used to call it long-distance flirting but whatever), so I decided to share with you some tips that have helped me.

1. Save the date

Try to stick a schedule for your next date. Whether that is in 1 week, or in 1 month, or in 1 semester. To keep long-distance relationships going you need to know when you’re going to see each other, have something in common to dream and look foward to. Both of you have to be patient for your next date and try to find out opportunities to see each other. Otherwise, the relationship is more likely to die before it even begins.

2. Trust issues

A friend of mine tells me that the trinity of success in a relationship is: communication - trust - understanding. And this counts whether the couple is tested at a long-distance relationship or in a daily and typical relationship. Let's start with the issue of trust, given that you are several kilometers apart. When we are practically absent from each other's daily life, it is natural to fill our minds with thoughts and doubts and maybe even get a little more jealous. But once we've made the decision to try a long-distance relationship, we have to be totally there, trying to make it work. Try to build a healthy relationship, without paranoid jealousies and hysteria. Without doubting each other. Because how can you be with someone thousands of kilometers apart without trusting him completely?

3. Communicate…but don’t neglect the mundane

In a long-distance relationship, it’s common to feel like you never get enough time to talk with your partner. You constantly need to communicate with the other person,  you need to know where they are, what they are doing, if they are thinking about you. But don't you think that this is a bit transgressive? You have to respect your partner's integrity, his obligations, his personal time. And he has to do the same. So make sure your communication is meaningful. It is okay if some days you need to talk to him for an extra hour on the phone, but don't forget that there will also be some days when maybe you will need a little more time for yourself. And that's normal. Don't contact with him just because it's been 3 hours and they haven't texted you back. Text him beacuse you feel it, because you want to hear him, because something happened and you want to share it with him first. Don't make your communication mandatory, because this will suffocate you.

4. Bonus tip: Do things together!

Physical distance doesn’t mean you can’t do things together, especially with modern technology. It just requires a little more creativity. Plan a date night even from a distance.  Dress up, make a video call, drink together your favorite wine, cook your favorite recipe and dine together. Watch the same series, the same movie (get some ideas here), listen to a podcast, and then discuss it. Maybe you can’t go on a date in person, but you can still create a romantic atmosphere at home. Find things you both like and set up your date normally, just like you would if you were in the same city.

Is it really worth it?

Definitely this answer is yes! It's worth it because through every relationship you discover yourself. You see what you can handle and what you can't. You have feelings, you share them. Don't forget that no matter the distance, the most important thing in a relationship is the will you have to be together. This motivates people to try. To be more in love, stronger, more together.

And if it doesn't work? It's ok. Not all relationships work out! But if you don't try, you'll never know.
Don't be afraid to fall in love.
xx,
E.